Emotional intelligence, I first came across this word many years ago in my teens when my elder sister bought a book on Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. This new fancy word caught my attention and I picked up the book to read it only to realize that it was above my level of comprehension at that time. I couldn’t get past a few pages because of all…
“A manipulative person is great at portraying a kind and generous image of themselves in public so that no one would suspect anything from them. But behind closed doors, the story is different. The people who live with them are not safe from their abuse and the worst part is, nobody would believe that this seemingly kind and generous person could do such a thing.”Ahmed Faraz Khan…
One of the top characteristics of healthy relationships is the ability of both people to consciously set and maintain healthy boundaries (that includes respecting the other person’s boundaries as well). But why is it so important to set boundaries in romantic relationships? Aren’t intimate relationships supposed to be, well, intimate? Wouldn’t it make the relationship too mechanical and limited? This thinking pattern of “going with the emotional…
Let’s be honest, the initial phase of falling in love and physical attraction is not enough to maintain and sustain a relationship in the long run. There are lots of other practical aspects involved that contribute to building a healthy relationship. The “honeymoon phase” phase for many relationships can only last for so long. That isn’t a bad thing, it’s just how we function. The initial blinding…
Before we dive right into how you can become a better listener in any relationship and enhance your social skills, let's look into 3 typical communication scenarios that we usually experience. Scenario #1 Imagine you are at a gathering where you are talking to Person-A, and you are expressing yourself with all your heart. You are fully engaged in converting your thoughts into words. Expressing your opinions,…
Being mindful and living in the present moment seems such a simple, straight forward, no-brainer thing, yet it seems to escape most of us. So much so that it has become a hot topic for many books, blogs, and seminars. Why is it that such a simple thing as being mindful seems so elusive to apply in our everyday lives? The answer is simple. We have not…
Every single one of us has the potential to be so much more than we are, and throughout our lives, we stumble upon so many amazing ideas and take great initiatives for our growth and well-being, and we also go to great lengths to get started and get things going. But after the initial hype settles down, we often find it difficult to be consistent and stay…
We all know the feeling of sheer overwhelm when we have so much more to do than our tiny little plates could handle (as in “having too much on my plate”... no? Okay...). The feeling of shutting down, feeling stuck, helpless, hopeless, not knowing how all of it would get done, often mixed with the feelings of frustration and anxiety...Yep, we are all just too familiar with…
Feelings of hurt are one of the most common feelings in human relationships whether it be personal or professional. Firstly, it is very important to understand that all negative/uncomfortable emotions have some higher purpose. They are there to serve us in some form, not to harm us. I like to call them Indicators. The purpose of these emotional indicators is to direct our attention towards something that…
If you have stumbled upon this guide, chances are you recently had an uncomfortable interaction with someone who showed jealousy towards you and now you want to know exactly how to handle such jealous people. Maybe you mentioned something about your progress or an achievement, or just how well things have been going for you lately, and all of a sudden you could smell hints of jealousy…
Do you encounter people who keep asking you annoyingly personal questions, and you can’t figure out exactly how to deal with such nosy people. Did it ever happen to you that you ended up giving in to those nosy, personal questions and telling them all about yourself when you really didn’t want to? And later on, you kick yourself for it. Answering questions about your private matters,…
We all go through the ups and downs of life. There are times when things work perfectly well for us and life's a breeze, and sometimes we are tested when things don’t seem to go as we desire or expect. Knowing how to stay positive during such difficult times can shift our entire experience of life. When we face a particularly challenging phase of life, we must…
Are you going through a rough patch? Do you struggle with negative thoughts and emotions and wonder if there is any way to effectively get rid of them? If so, you are not alone my friend. Practical life can sometimes throw curveballs at us in the form of challenging circumstances, past memories, and difficult people. During such times, it's a common occurrence to get stuck in the…
Have you struggled with your position in society? Do you find yourself trying to please people too often? Do you worry too much about others’ opinions of you or fitting-in with them? Do you tend to lose your voice in the crowd and not being able to stand up for yourself? Have you ever struggled with charisma and confidence? If any of this resonates with you, worry…
"The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say NO to almost everything." — Warren Buffet Always saying yes and agreeing to everything because of social pressure can be draining and exhausting. Have you suffered this “Ummm...yeah...sssure...” syndrome? Are you tired of being a YES-Man/Woman? We have our own life with limited time and so many things to do. We have…
As the famous saying goes "success/growth is 80% psychology and 20% mechanics". If we want to grow forward in different areas of life, it is necessary that we develop a clear understanding of the mindset/psychology associated with the process of growth. Many of us focus on “HOW” to succeed at a particular thing but rarely ever think about what kind of a person do we have to…
Often relationships seem to start out just fine but over time develop toxic patterns that negatively affect the quality of life for both people involved. In this in-depth guide, we'll dive deep into specifically why relationships turn toxic and how in the world do you survive a toxic relationship. We'll go through 18 steps that'll help you build healthy relationships and get your life back to harmony…
Have you ever felt helplessly stuck in a certain area of life and wondered how to overcome this feeling of helplessness? How to get unstuck? Have you ever gone through thoughts like, “I feel like I have no control, I feel totally helpless” “I don’t think that things would change, there’s no hope” These are the kind of statements I’ve heard over and over again in my…
Do you have the habit of worrying too much about the future and wondered how to stop this endless thought pattern of worry? When we pay attention to our thoughts, we find that most of our time is spent either dabbling in the past or thinking about what is up ahead in the future. Basically, “what happened” and “what might happen” takes up much of our mind…
We spend a great chunk of our entire life in/at work. It’s safe to assume that every one of us who is professionally active seeks the "secrets" to professional growth and a fulfilling work-life, especially with regards to a startup business. Yet there are times when we get stuck and our progress seem to be limited to a certain point. And even when we do see financial…
Let's face it, life is not always sunshine and rainbows. Many of us had our shares of challenging experiences and sometimes those past experiences and memories seem to stick on to us long after, making it harder to let go of the past and move on. Even though it might be over, the past experiences and memories continue to occupy our mind and affect the quality of…
Today we'll discuss how to deal with difficult people using a couple of simple techniques that we can use instantly to train our minds in advance. We all have some people in our lives that we find a bit difficult and challenging to deal with. Maybe it’s that co-worker, a friend, a neighbor or maybe someone very close to you. Do you dread dealing with them? Does…
You might have heard a lot about getting out of the comfort zone from motivational speakers and successful people. It all seems good in theory, but as soon as that motivational talk ends, many of us tend to go back into our usual routines. Though we don't need to be out of our comfort all the time, in fact, much of our time will be spent within…
What is Self-Acceptance? We see a lot of Self-acceptance quotes on the internet nowadays. Maybe we too have posted it on our social media. Well, the straightforward question would be, what actually is self-acceptance? Does it refer to just accepting everything in our life and settling for whatever that is happening? Does it mean that we just give up on improving or changing? Certainly, there are a…
For those of you who have been looking for ways and strategies to get more confident, natural and relaxed in social settings and completely get rid of social anxiety, your call has been answered! This is not a generic article you normally find on the internet that will give you some superficial tips and quick fixes. As it is the custom here at Online Life Guide that…
Do you remember how playful, lively and curious you were as a child and how rapidly you used to learn new things? But as we age, most of us begin to lose that spark of exciting curiosity. Having a healthy curiosity is one of the key factors of youthfulness. So today we'll be discussing the amazing impacts curiosity can have on our well being and how can…
